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| Child: | Mary 6 years | ||
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| Child: | Mary 6 | ||
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| Child: | Emily......21!!!!!!!!!!!!! | ||
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| Name: | Robin Email: | ||
| Child: | Chase | ||
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Susan is our resident nurse so we will ask her about Lauren's hypothyroidism...watch this.... SUUUSAAANNNN?? See, now she will answer you soon ! I had to laugh renee, I still remember them telling me Chase would ride the bus, LOLOLOL, I was hysterical, it was like, hmmmm maybe in a couple of weeks, let us see. And after a week of taking him and them begging me to let him try, I did, LOL followed the bus mind you girl, and when I got there he was happy as a clam and they said he was so proud to get off that bus like a big boy! (and he was only two) And so the bus became his biggest love, and still is, just like CC's Christopher. I am waiting for you to move in, LOL but remember now, we have no girls here so plan on staying forever as once we get a taste of pink girlie frills, we may not be able to let her go!!! Hugs, Robin | ||
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| Name: | Christie Email: | ||
| Child: | Christopher, 9 | ||
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Renee, can't help you with the Hyopthyroidism as that is one thing Chris has never had a problem with. I bet there are some here that can help you out with info on that. Lauren will do great in school and I bet she will love the bus when you are ready for her to try. Truly was one of Christopher's favorite parts of the day. He has been taking the bus everyday since he was 3 and entered preschool. Best of Luck with all your new changes :-) Skeeter, Prayers on the way for Kyle and will continue to you post up all is well. I can only imagine how you can't wait till this is all over and behind you. Blessings Kyle ;-) Robin, glad to hear the assistant for Chase will not be coming back!!!!!!! When I use to go in and observe Chris in school he would run, get his backpack and say Jeep, LOLOL He thought he was going home. But quickly he got use to me popping in and out so now when he sees me he just waves and says "HI MOM" :-) Best of Luck next week and any chance of you being part of the interview for the new assistant. I mean you know who would work best with Chase better then anyone. Just a thought. Got to run, Chris, Kodi and Colin want to eat dinner, Hmmmm can you believe they want to eat??? LOLOL Have a super weekend all. CC | ||
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| Name: | Terri Email: | ||
| Child: | Michael - 10 months | ||
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I'll pray that Kyle has a successful surgery and a speedy, healthy recovery. We "spoke" in chat a few weeks ago. I'm the one who lives near CHOP, if you remember. If you need any info on the area, please let me know. I also have info on the Ronald McDonald house, where families who have kids in the hospital can stay for free. I don't know anything about the surgery since my son's heart was fine. But I'm sure there are many people here who have been through some kind of heart surgery. Good luck! Terri | ||
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| Name: | Christie Email: | ||
| Child: | Christopher, 9 | ||
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| Name: | Renee' Email: | ||
| Child: | Lauren..3 | ||
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It was great talking with you all last night. I just got a call from Lauren's doctor and he told me she has Hyopthyroidism. She is going to have to take medication and he said this may be a life long thing. I am not to sure how I am feeling about this. Anyone been through this??? I just feel like not now..things are going too well for her. We had Lauren's IEP today and it went really well. They seemed to be very impressed with her and are looking forward to her coming to school. She is going 2 days a week and will be with 4 year olds. I am not to sure about this either but she will have a 1 on 1 aide. Keep me in your prayers...I am trying not to stress. She is suppose to rind the bus too..but I told them maybe in a week or two..YIKES! Have a great evening... Renee' Robin..don't forget we are movin' in!!! | ||
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| Name: | Tricia Email: | ||
| Child: | Patrick | ||
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Look at www.dogbreedinfo.com , they receive the highest rating in reliability with children and are considered excellent with children. Is Collin really 2!!!!!! Unbelivable.. Happy Birthday Buddy. | ||
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| Name: | Robin Email: | ||
| Child: | Chase | ||
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| Name: | Robin Email: | ||
| Child: | Chase | ||
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We got Chase a dog for his second birthday, a yellow lab who we named Bailey. He has been Chase's best friend for the last seven years. They play togethr and when Chase is in trouble, LOL, he goes and cries to Bailey who listens to it all. he can climb on him, pull his tail or what ever and Bailey just tkaes it all and gives kisses, big old horse that he is! Hgs, Robin PS ...SUZI.... Chase still drinks out of a sippy cup, just perfers it as he has a hard time with that tongue and positioning it right. My philosphy, is it doesnt hurt if it is early or late. Chase drank form a bottle til he was over two, shame on me :-) | ||
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| Name: | Suzi Email: | ||
| Child: | Merideth & 3boyz | ||
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Now here's my question of the day...maybe Susan will know the answer... IS there any advantage to weaning to a sippy cup over a bottle at a young age? Reason I ask is last night Meri grabbed Sam's cup & started drinking before I took it off her....so I just tried again. Though you hafta help her hold it & she dribbled some...she just drank her formula half the cup's worth from one of those no-spill Playtex sippys! | ||
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| Name: | Dolly Email: | ||
| Child: | Eric 19 months | ||
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I have been researching dogs for kids too; there is a good website...Type in "Reliability with Children" they give you any breed imaginable, and whether they are recommended for children. also breed history, health, whether they shed, trainablity, and photos. good info.. seems like most of the larger breeds are good with kids, like labs, golden retrievers, great danes, collies, etc. Smaller breeds are pretty good, but a little more yappy. pugs,beagles, and most hounds are good. Check it out for yourself. I'm waiting till Eric gets alittle older..he's only 19months. But its me who wants the dog...I love dogs. Think it would be good for Eric too, they can be "buddies" Dolly | ||
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| Name: | Dolly Email: | ||
| Child: | Eric 19 months | ||
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I have been researching dogs for kids too; there is a good website...Type in Reliability with Children they give you any breed imaginable, and whether they are recommended for children. also breed history, health, whether they shed, trainablity, and photos. good info.. seems like most of the larger breeds are good with kids, like labs, golden retrievers, great danes, collies, etc. Smaller breeds are pretty good, but a little more yappy. pugs,beagles, and most hounds are good. Check it out for yourself. I'm waiting till Eric gets alittle older..he's only 19months. But its me who wants the dog...I love dogs. Think it would be good for Eric too, they can be "buddies" Dolly | ||
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| Name: | Mary L Email: | ||
| Child: | Patrick + 3 | ||
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| Name: | Robin Email: | ||
| Child: | Chase | ||
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Another snow/ice day so no school again! I will have to wait til Monday to start my days in the third grade. :-) I have just reda all of your posts and I have to say to all of you.... You guys make me and Chase feel so loved!!!!! Here is a BIG {{{{HUG}}}} for all of you! Cindy, your idea and Linda's about Chase not knowing I am ther wathcing him is a very very good one! I am going to do just that! Although he seems very relieved that I am going to school with him to protect him. I told him I will be there every day until he has a new aide and things are going on the upslide for him. I spent four hours going over ideas of positives and distractors if he acts up and suggestions for bad behaviors besides screaming at him and pulling on him or putting him in a BASKET HOLD! Any ways, just so you all know, we wil be having another meeting this upcoming week and Janelle will be removed from Chase, or we will be very rich after the law suit. Thank you all for your support. RO>>>>>>>>>>> ROFL, your post was so funny!!!! You always say my child is innocent, even when he is guilty as charged! LOL, I could catch him doing something naughty and you would have a excuse for that kid, LOL but this time you are right, he is innocent, excpet that I am sure he did cuss!!!!! And ROFL, I LOVED how you managed to cuss here and not be caught, LOLOL! Linda, hugs to you bud, I am sure life is so hectic and hard for you, so here is a thoguth.. why doesnt everyone move to Michigan near me and Holly and we can all be one big happy family!, Great idea huh????? Steff, your memories were heart aching and bittersweet.I so much remmber those first days.... was right where you were. And now, look at us, LOL we have two little terrors! Kiss that boo boo lip for me and give Kyle and hug from ole pm too! Dolly, Annie S is working on hotel rooms for all of us so we can be together in a god hotel with things to do right Annie? At least I think that is waht Susan told me, LOL! Praying for babies and anyone else who is going to be having surgery or health issues. Got to go beat some children ...two days of no school, yikes Linda! This is coperal punishment! LOL, hugs, Robin | ||
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| Name: | Robin Email: | ||
| Child: | Chase | ||
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HUGS FROM Robin, Dave, Chase and Zach | ||
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| Name: | Annie S Email: | ||
| Child: | Sonny 7 | ||
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Steff what a great story thanks for sharing...So God works are so wonderful... I know when I was in the hospital there was a nurse who helped me when Sonny was born I had him by emergency c-section and the nurse that helped me for the next few days was gone the day we found out that Sonny had DS.She was there the next day and I was in my room it was around 10:00p and she came and sat with me..She told me God gives gifts to us in ways we don't understand at first..She told me the dissapointment will pass and you will realize what a gift you have..I felt she was my angel here..she had a really gentle touch and manner..Her words were so comforting.. | ||
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| Name: | Diane Email: | ||
| Child: | Chris - Age 28 | ||
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| Child: | Emily......21!!!!!!!!!!!!! | ||
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| Name: | Suzi Email: | ||
| Child: | Merideth + 3boyz | ||
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| Name: | Skeeter Hutchins Email: | ||
| Child: | Kyle | ||
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| Name: | Ro Email: | ||
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NOW back to the homework RO | ||
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| Name: | steff Email: | ||
| Child: | Olivia(4) | ||
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I just found something that brought back a lotta memories and thought I'd share with ya all... When Olivia was first born let's just say I was outta the hospital inless than 24 hours and was a wreck to say the least. After day 3 of having her home I was such the zombie and feeling sorry for myself and just sad sad sad. Well let's just say Liv had to be awaken to eat, did NOT cry a lick and did not move a muscle. She just laid ther barely opening her eyes and her legs were like a frogs and her arms did not move a muscle. I was out of it. One night about 9 pm and absolutely no rest at all since her birth I was outside on our porch bawling quietly to myself like crazy when Jeff came outside to comfort me.So I am doing those uncontollable hiccup like things when the little girl from across the street walked up with her mom. She handed me a doll for Olivia. She was 8 years old at the time and had made a doll for Liv. It is beautiful and so special cause she worked for 2 days straight to make it for her. Apparently when Jeff came home first he warned all the neighbors about the birth and Liv's diagnosis(he was soo protective of me-gotta love him). So this little 8 year old girl came brought the doll to me and I let her come in and hold liv with my beady red eys and swollen face. She just held Liv and noticed any type of cute thing she did(which wasn't much at the time she rarely moved) and made me see how beautiful a baby Liv was. Funny huh an 8 year old..LOL. WELL. I have not seen the doll for almost 2 years and Liv found it. I caught her in her bedroom playing away with her. Thought I'd share brought back memeories and tears to my eyes... BYE | ||
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| Name: | steff Email: | ||
| Child: | olivia(4) | ||
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Radonna hope you got my e-mail. SOOO glad to hear you are back and we are in for some more cute Kaden stories... CC... Now wait a minute if the doctor suggested there is a problem with Chris' speech did he/she not write a prescription for more speech???One thing that burns my biscuits is when people offer their opinion with no solutions. Did he/she give you any??? Robin...Robin...UGGG what can I say but I am sooo sorry you have to go through all that stuff. Now since the principal witnessed this God-forsaken person who calls herself an aide would he/she not use their PRINCIPAL-LIKE powers to change Chases' aide to a new one? Even retraining the old one does not seem like a viable option for you all as she already has her little mind set about him. GRRRRR...:( I sure hope you can find a match for Chase as an aide. School should not be that kind of experience at ALL. SO SORRY and get em girl... ;) Cindy...LOL!!! A glass of wine after a LONG day with kids is well can you say mandatory???LOL!!!!When I have had one of those stressed filled crazy days that is a good way to deal and relax my cranky ole self..LOL!!! Today I had a strange day with Liv at school. When I came to pick her up she had a giant boo boo lip and was sitting outside with all the kiddos BUT with her back to them . I watched her for about 10 minutes from my car and no one even knew. So I go and get her and bring her in to sign out. Well her sp ed teachers aide says whats wrong Olivia??Liv wouldn't answer...WELL she starts to go on about the new teach she doesn't like etc. That's where I put a stop to it cause there is soo much politics and games going on at school I refuse to get involved with em. I don't know what to believe anymore and I told her ...Unless it has something to do with her doing something to Liv or the other kids or something really imp ..I don't wanna hear it. Cause BOY OH BOY. I got involved once and sure turned into a mess. To tell you the truth I still don't know what happened. So... being that I cannot trust her principal(she told the teachers that a parent was complaining their child wasn't being changed-and UMMM they came up to me asking me about it cause OLIVIA is the only sp. ed student who isn't potty trained. WELL I had to straighten that out with the teachers who I know know I would never go to the principal wioth a concern unless I talked to them first and it wasn't resolved.So GAMES GAMES GAMES...I'm keeping my eye out though.Hey did anyone see 60 minutes II with the avid instruction that is being used in some schools? My ma called me up this morning and had me look it up on the web said it was great I unfortunately can't seem to stay awake past 9 pm so I missed it. Oh well... I'll drop by chat and say hey for a secif possible .It's hard these days.. Hope everyone is well.. HEY Linda..Boy you have a lotta work each day. Caregivers can get extremely burnt out. I know sometimes when Jeff is really sick and needs a lot of my time I GO NUTS.Between him and Liv and Kyle.Can ya get some respite somehow someway?? Yea easy for me to say I am still waiting on the respite we were approved for 2 months ago. 14 hours a months. WOOOHOOO.Better than nothing. take care BYE | ||
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| Name: | Mary L Email: | ||
| Child: | Patrick + 3 | ||
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I didnt get a chance to get on the computer the last few days because the dreaded flu virus ended up getting everyone this time. The boys finally went back to school yesterday and then today was a snow day! Hopefully tomorrow things will be completely back to normal. I hope to make it to chat for a little bit tonight. talk to you then. Mary L. | ||
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| Name: | Ro Email: | ||
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Ya know what chaffs my butt. When I hear a person, cause we difinately can't call his aide a mom judging by her actions;), is when that person blames a child for their failings. I think she shouldn't come back next year. For any kid. The reason is she seems to stressful to deal with kids at all much less during class time with a child who requires an imaginative aide to help. She is dealing with him at a level he can't/ won't / will die before I conform type of setting. Don't get me wrong I dont know what she has tried. But she should be smart enough to know to try another avenue. The only think limiting her is her imagination. Maybe she would be good for some form of teaching working but she seems to have forgotten the reason she is there. It is not to make him fit any type of grouping, He is different, He is a leader and if he doesnt like it she then better mover her shin.( BUT CHASE WOULD NEVER DO THIS) He is there to be taught. She is to help him learn anyway he can grasp it. ....."that he needs a trained person like the special ed teacher to do one on one all day with him, that he is incorrigible, that he wont do anything for her, that he spends his whole day spitting at her, kicking her, slapping her, swearing at her, tearing up all his papers, refusing to do any work ever, running away, climbing under the tables...." SO SHOOT ME I COPIED AND PASTED:)LOL This is what her feelings are and I think she is right. 'SHE' NEEDS TO BE TRAINED if she took this position and she wasn't properly trained then the school is at fault. She needs to be trained to deal with the slaps , the spits, the swearing(BUT GOD KNOWS MY CHASE WOULD NEVER CUSS), The running from and the such. A parent learns on a daily basis that if one method of instruction doesn't work you try another. Get his attention and then gradually enter the learning. No child is going to be FORCE feed long. They all rebel and maybe he has had enough of her traditional tries and wants to widen her scope. BUT COME ON!!!!!!!! Nothing he has done , WILL EVER DO, or even think of doing can cause her to be a bad parent. ...."She also kept saying that the big problem was that Chase knows he is different and want to not be there at school, and that he wants to be in a special school with his kind, she wsa stuck on his being aware and EMBARRASSED that he is different...." Seems with this mind frame she is difinately in the wrong field of work. She seems to be very predjudice. As for the seeing the forest for the trees....... Well I know I am being bad here and I really think that that could be seen as. THEY CAN'T SEE BECAUSE THEY HAVE THEIR HEADS RAMMED SO FAR UP THE RECTAL ORFICE OF THE OTHER . They have clouded vision. But it ain't no tree blocking their vision. Robin, Ya know I have never meet Chase . I am not partial to him on the grounds that I already love him because he is a really close friend I SEE , deal with and a have any happenings with on a daily basis. You are not being biased in anyway. Speak from your heart. | ||
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| Name: | Radonna Email: | ||
| Child: | Kaden | ||
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| Name: | Christie Email: | ||
| Child: | Christopher, 9 | ||
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Cindy, thanks girl, sooo much and tooo much with the speech for Christopher to go into here, I will email you later, if thats OK :-) Linda, just a thought but is it possible to get someone to come in a few hours a week to help with your Dad? Not sure of his age but if he is on MediCare or Medicade what ever they call it I think they may be able to help you some with this. Hope the meds kick in and he is feeling better. Got to run lots to do before the bus gets here. CC | ||
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| Name: | Cindy Email: | ||
| Child: | kaylee - 8 | ||
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I would not allow that IA to spend one more minute with my child. I would threaten to sue, I would DEMAND a different IA and would stay (is that possible for you?) in the classroom--maybe say for one week, while they found someone else.You could tell them you would be there exactly 5 days--though you are not at all obligated to that. All you have to say is that you've contacted you LAWYER and they will be hearing from him. Say that you fear for Chase's safety as the IA was completey out of control in the IEP--and that you don't want her touching or working with Chase again. If you put it all in writing with copies to the principal-the head of special programs in your district as well as to the superintedant of school then you will get immediate responses. IN REGARDS TO THE ISSUE OF 'feeling' different. I actually believe that Kaylee see's the difference and is a little bummed sometimes about it. IF ANYTHING THOUGH-it only makes her want to do MORE of the things the other kids, certainly not be WITHOUT the other kids. Last night Emma read Kaylee's reading book out loud and she did it pretty quickly and after the first story and she started the second story Kaylee put her head down on the table and started making some little quiet crying noises. I said "Kaylee, what's wrong?" "Emma's reading my boooook." and you could tell it was discouraging to her to watch Emma do it easliy. That won't be happening again. I'm all for Emma reading-but she can do her own books. I do think Kaylee see's the difference, but we try to talk about it openly and give lotsa love. Afterall-everyones different. I can't balance the check book well-and I'm certainly not a size 5. I make good cookies and yummy quesadilla's--but I don't make Chinese food. I'm just trying to encourage Kaylee to accept herself--and be proud of what she does well and remind her of her great character qualities-she's funny, she's kind-she's SO helpful. She really likes to serve others. So she may not be the fastest reader, but she's READING! and she has lotsa friends. I do think she know's she's different-she gets upset that she can't jumprope all by herself--but she can do it when others are turning a big rope--only once or twice in a row. She see's these things she can't do and she gets frustrated. Don't your kids do that? The important thing is they are all little kids-and everyone is different. It's not our kids that are Different from everyone else. IT IS THAT ALL KIDS ARE UNIQUE IN THEIR ABILITIES-Disability or no disability.;) | ||
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| Name: | Cindy Email: | ||
| Child: | kaylee-8 | ||
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For CHASES sake, they need to get someone to work with him that doesn't argue about his right to BE THERE. That is absolutely ridiculous. You should quote everything she said in your letter. This is a VERY UNSUPPORTIVE ENVIRONMENT FOR CHASE--and of course he will not behave properly when met with such negative attitude and the underlying attitude from the IA that he shouldn't even be there. UGH! sorry for going on--If anything chase KNOWS the IA is holding him back from participating normally in the classroom because SHE DOESN'T THINK HE SHOULD BE THERE. Why would she want him to succeed? That would disprove her theory. OHHHH! GET EM ROBIN!! | ||
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| Name: | Linda (again!) Email: | ||
| Child: | Adam | ||
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| Name: | Linda Email: | ||
| Child: | ADAM 7 | ||
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Today is not a very good day with Dad either -- On days like today I literally have to tell him what to do -- step by step -- "Get up, Walk upstairs, Hold on to the hand rail, Sit down, eat Breakfast, (pour milk, pour the cereal) Drink your juice (pour juice) .... Here's your pills (get them out)- take your meds -- Keep drinking - you need to finish the glass...." etc! He continually says what a burden he is, but when he is in this state he doesn't even have enough wherewithall to take his plate up to the counter when he is done eating!!!.... I am bushed -- but not beaten!! -- thanks to all of your encouraging words! All I can say is I wish I could've gotten Dad to see a Dr sooner -- he may not have become this depressed & therefore the road back to recovery wouldn't be so hard.... BUT I am thankful I was able to get him to a Dr when I did -- so enough of MY complaining! -- DEBBIE -- I especailly want to thank you -- you are an inspiration to us here on this Board & you help us out soooooo much! You are so very honest & give us all a deeper insight -- thanks for being YOU! Robin - Oh gosh - gee - we are all going thru some dilema or another huh??!!! :( Maybe it's in the air - mixed in w/ the snow & freezing rain.....We are gettting the saamew mix here - some schools south of us closed this AM BUT my kiddos all had school - hope they can all get home w/out accidents -- the roads look BAD outside -- and I see NO PLOWS! Don't know what's up w/ that -- we have a snow plow contract for the driveway -- the guy has been here like 2x all season -- but not today!! Hope he shows up before the kids get home form school! Robin - boy, I feel for you girl -- wow!can't believe the 1:1 DID that to you in the Meeting! She (in my opinion!) has GOT to GO!!! I think SHE is the one who needs the self contained environment from the sounds of her "speech" -- Wow - I too would be just blown away if Adam's aide did that!! You know, someone mentioned that he might be missing Linda still (I think that was his aide's name before, right?) -- It just might be that you know & HE may not even know it himself! As far as him knowing he's different -- i agree w/ you - I bet he doesn't really "know" it -- I think Adam does not "know" that he is different - but I know he DOES know to do things that will get the other kid's attention & to make them laugh -- even sometimes if he knows it is NOT appropriate behavior & he will suffer consequences for acting up - like staying in at recess, etc. I think the other kids "know" Adam is different -- I have talked to the school about this & have suggested that perhaps instead of letting the kids "guess" or assume something else -- that they talk tot his class about DS - maybe read a book or something -- The principal said tht they have done that before w/ other kids with other varied disabilities -- brought in a speaker to talk about the disability in terms that would be age appripriate for the kids in the class.... We may still do that for Adam this year -- don't know for sure yet.... When you go into Chases's classroom - any chance you could watch him without him knowing you are there (like a 2-way mirror?) I know sometimes Adam acts up/ acts out when I am in the classroom with him -- I think he thinks I will tell his aide that he doesn't have to do the work if he gives me a hug! HA!I will be praying for you girl -- you keep doing what you KNOW is best for your child!!! Susan - thanks for the tips on screening for Clinical depression -- it helps to have a Nurse aboard here with us!! Sorry to hear -- sounds like the whole Family is not well w/ some virus? -- Keep healthy Dr Mom!! :) Renee - hang in there girl -- I feel for ya - soooooo many changes & no DH around much pon top of it all!! :( Ro - yo are soooo right --- this board is just great for venting, problem solving, worrying etc not to mention taking pride in our kid's accomplishments!! Thanks for the reminder & the "OK TO VENT" acclaimation! :) Ta=hanks Annie for sharing about your Mom -- I do get nervous about leaving Dad sometimes -- it doesn't seem like he is suicidal -- but he does talk sometimes about me just letting him be so he can die, etc....Are these "early" warning signs? I have mentioned it to the nurses/ dr etc -- so far they think he would not try tot take his own life -- He is a Christain & does believe that suicide is wrong in God's eyes so I don't think he would do it...... Hi to Wendy! I don't think I remember meeting you before -- I am Linda, Mom to Adam (7 & my child with DS), also mom to Kate (9) & Aimee (12) & have a wonderful DH -- Married 22 years & counting --- his name is Ralph -- we live in Western NY state near Rochester.......... Well I have only read thru past few posts & certainly not caught up - I know there were others I was going to respond to but but I need to get going here -- Dad went downstairs to nap & I need to try to get him up & back up the stairs & get him to take a shower or bath before the kids come home --- otherwise it gets too confusing here for him to do anything but pace back & forth..... {{hugs}} to all -- Can't promise anything but maybe will try to stop in at chat tonight....... LINDA | ||
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| Name: | Dolly Email: | ||
| Child: | Eric 19months | ||
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I've been thinking about the possible get-together in Cinncinnati and probably going to attend. Could anyone give me any ideas on where to stay? I didn't go last year, and have no clue. Never been to Cinci, even tho I live only about 4 hours away. Thanks, and looking forward to meeting you all. Dolly | ||
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| Name: | Annie S Email: | ||
| Child: | Sonny7 | ||
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Linda please forgive me I didn't mean to sound like all people who suffer from depression take there own lives..My mother had some real lifetime issues other than the depression and its so great you are able to help him ...I would talk to his Doctor and find out just what is causing it could be chemical... My first husband also suffered from depression and we found out it was mostly a chemical inbalance.. Cindy I too struggle with the Daddy being gone..some mornings Sonny cries for his Daddy..I think it is the hardest on him Having Steve gone all week every week.. He is so excited when he comes home...and I know that Steff too must struggle with this at times.. Cindy so glad to hear the you IEP went well..what have you decided to do about the school situation? | ||
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| Name: | Robin Email: | ||
| Child: | Chase | ||
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hugs, Robin PS, Ro..... LOL Mr Clean huh??? | ||
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| Name: | Robin Email: | ||
| Child: | Chase | ||
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Chase and I didnt have to go to school today, we got over eight inches of snow dropped here last night, I am sure that Holly and little Jake got it even worse. it is still snowing and is suspose to chang to freezing rain by noon. I want to thank you all for all the support and love you have sent our way. The mtg yesterday packed a big punch and hearing your words were so healing and empowering to me, especially you Debbie. Your parents must be so awed by you and your strenght! You are a wonderful, wonderful person. Iam a trained parent advocate and I know how to handle myself in mtg with other parents I help, but man oh man, when it is your own child and you are not expecting the blow and it comes out of the blue, it hits you striaght on and hurts so so much. The mtg started out great, with Chase's TC ( teacher/inclusion consultant) leading the mtg and telling us what she found with the behavior assessment and her suggestions, (which she and I had gone over toether and worked on) and it was then that janelle (his one on one aide) went berserk on us all and said nothing would work , that he doesnt belong in a regulare school, that he needs a trained person like the special ed teacher to do one on one all day with him, that he is incorrigible, that he wont do anything for her, that he spends his whole day spitting at her, kicking her, slapping her, swearing at her, tearing up all his papers, refusing to do any work ever, running away, climbing under the tables, and that she is not going to put up with a kid doing any of that to her anymore and she wil not be coming back next year because he has turned her into a bad mother, a bad wife, and a bad person who is very depressed, all because she has to wortk with him every day. She was so angry and mean. Needless to say, it was alot of yelling and unproductive conversation, I could go on and on. Every idea that ws givent o her she refused, saying it would not work and she would not agree to even try any of them. She also kept saying that the big problem was that Chase knows he is different and want to not be there at school, and that he wants to be in a special school with his kind, she wsa stuck on his being aware and EMBARRASSED that he is different then all of the other kids in his class. Tehn one at a time, all the important key players had to go without any thing being resolved and we ended the mtg with saying we needed to get back together asap. And to top it off, the support coordinator from mental health told me that she thinks the aide is right, he knows and is emabaarassed that he is different, and that I cant see it "BECAUSE I CANT SEE THE FOREST FOR THE TREES!" GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR, oh oh here comes the anger again. I have to tell you guys, Chase is MY son and I know for a fact,that he is NOT aware yet that he is different! I know this as sure as I know my name is robin and that issue is rediculous and has nothing to do with his behaviors. If you could of seen her attitude, OMG, the principle was appalled by it, but didnt say anything to her, waited til she had left and told us she thought alot of it is that Chase can read the aides body language and who wants to spend the day with a mean hateful resenting person??? And if you give him negative attention, he is going to respond to that so fast, of course he will enjoy doing things to make you react. Ok I am sorry for going on and on, I will stop. I need to get the next mtg wet up any ways and start on my comments which I WILL read at the next mtg BEFORE any one has another word to say and anyone who does not care for my comments can feel free to get up and leave. Right? hugs, Robin | ||
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| Name: | Renee' Email: | ||
| Child: | Lauren..3 | ||
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Well, I am off this afternoon to another meeting for Lauren. It is a "SNRT" a meeting where about 6 people get together at the day care to see if they can take care of Lauren's special needs. This is all so funny to me. I guess that they need to feel comfortable taking care of her or something. They will have doctors and educational specialist. I know they only want to take the best care of Lauren but I asked them can't you change a diaper and feed her? She plays right along with the other children. Anyway, they need expert advice. I will TRY and keep it all together today. I hope they don't get to personal on me. This move is stressing me out! Wish me luck and I will talk to you all soon... I have an IEP meeting tomorrow..I hope it goes well..I don't want to cry..again! Have a great day! Renee' | ||
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| Name: | Christie Email: | ||
| Child: | Christopher | ||
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RO, so nice to see you back, you have been missed girl ;-) Susan, thanks for the email and yes isn't it amazing how I resemble myself, ROFPIMP Rest up girl, no time for you to get sick now, its almost chat night ;-) Debbie, soooo nice to see you posting again. I for one enjoy your posts tons as I know many here do :-) Robin, you will make things right, my money is on you girl. Hang in there and listen to Ro, we are all here for you and can all relate. When you are ready. Linda, I can totally relate to your post. My Mom lived with my Sis and after my sis passed away my Mom came and lived with us. She was here for 2 years before she passed on. Its not easy having a needy parent living with you and trying to run a house and raise kids and all that goes with that. Hang in there girl, one day at a time. I am by far noooooo Doc, so I could be wrong, would not be the first or last time, LOL I have heard Depression can run in families but I also know people that have been very very depressed and noooo one in their family ever was. Linda this is not under your control, soooooooo try and not worry now you have enough to think about. Steff, Good thoughts being sent your way for all Jeff's tests he is up for. Soooo glad you can get to go with him. Keep us up on how it goes, K. Connie, LOLOL bout the food calling out to you. Hmmmm actually I think I hear some brownies calling my name right now ;-) Soooo many more of you I wanted to respond to but it is late and I need to get off this puter. Wishing all well CC | ||
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| Child: | kaylee and emma | ||
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